BY Jerome Yaovi Onipede
Men that understand what marriage is about, will tell you that the best thing that has ever happened to them in life is their Marriage. Nothing can compare, and bring so much fulfilment to a Man than a good marriage. He doesn’t even need a great marriage, just a good one, and you will see how good that man can be to the entire world.
HOW PREPARED ARE MEN FOR MARRIAGE FROM HOME?
As a Marriage Counselor, I can tell you that most men are usually disillusioned during their first few years of marriage, because truth be told MOST MEN ARE NEVER PREPARED FOR MARRIAGE right from their upbringing at home, while most women have been prepared. Although the percentage of ladies that are being prepared for marriage from home is falling now, but I am sure that Parents can be encouraged not to relent in that area of training while making informed efforts to include the Male Child too.
WHAT IS A NEWLY MARRIED MAN’S LIKELY ATTITUDE TOWARDS MARRIAGE?
When certain Men get married, they just believe that everything will fall into place, and maybe without constructive efforts on their own part. In fairness to him, he puts in his own kind of efforts, but maybe not the efforts a Man whose status has changed to “MARRIED” should put in.
It’s possible that, because he knows how to pursue a woman, win her heart, and make a decision to get married to her, he may not think about the fact that after the wedding is over, another ball game begins entirely, which is the UNPACKING AND SETTLING DOWN INTO THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE. He may have been asked severally by his wife-to-be about his plans for the Marriage just before the wedding, but keeps replying that “When we get to that river, we will find a way of crossing it”, because left to him, he doesn’t see what to plan for. As far as he is concerned, when we are married, we are married, period!
CAN A MARRIED MAN HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO?
After the wedding and honeymoon, he spends sometime showing off his Status as Married by being everywhere with his New Bride, then gradually slips back to the Single Man Status without even planning to do so. He goes back to spending time alone with friends, or longer hours on the job. Before you know it, he starts to get comfortable going out alone again, which ends up being dangerous most times. The idea of spending more time chatting with the opposite sex, and hooking up becomes a possibility that may not make him settle down in his Marriage when he really needs to.
If this really happens to him, it may cause more problems in their new home, because while the wife is busy settling in, and at this moment getting excited with ideas about how she wants to spoil her man, and probably the baby on the way, he is busy trying to HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO. It seems one important lesson Men need to learn is that TO GAIN ONE THING, YOU HAVE TO SACRIFICE ANOTHER.
This situation easily births pain, hate, anger, bitterness, and resentment in their marriage even at an early stage. If it’s not put in check through THE GRACE OF GOD, and Professional Help, we may have this Couple lose the best thing they probably will ever have in their lives.
HOW TO BRING THE WORST MOMENTS IN YOUR MARRIAGE TO AN END
Married Couples who have had the worst moments in their Marriage, but through the Wisdom of God, decide to fight for their Marriage, always end up becoming THE BEST OF FRIENDS. When they look back after their comeback, they always realise their Marriage is a One in a Lifetime Experience worthy of their all, and this can be your experience too if it is not already.
Has your Marriage turned out to be a complete opposite of what you thought it would be?
Are you planning to leave or end the Marriage?
Before you make a decision under so much pressure, let’s talk.
My name is Jerome Yaovi Onipede. Let me show you how to fight for your Marriage even when you think you have fallen out of love with your Spouse.
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