Are You With Someone With Poor Hygiene?
Written By Jerome Yaovi Onipede.
MATCHMAKING has taught me so much about People, especially people believing they are ready for something, when in the real sense of it they are not ready at all. People would rather spend more time fantasizing about being ready than GETTING READY.
I have met people who have become very stingy, because they claim that others have taken so much money from them in previous relationships , and so they are not ready to spend a dime before and after getting Married to someone. It’s obvious such a person may be ready for other things, but not Marriage, because in Marriage you GIVE and RECEIVE, irrespective of what has happened to you in previous relationships. Although as far as I know, a Giver is always a Giver, so maybe you probably assumed you were a Giver, but were only giving to Control the other person, so we can say you were only a CONTROLLING GIVER.
However what can be worse than that is when you are Married to a Partner with Poor Hygiene. Someone who cares nothing about Body and Mouth odour. There are countless people out there who are going through hell because they are married to such people.
How many of you work in an office space where someone with a very strong body odour pays a visit to your office, stays a short while doing a transaction, and as soon as he or she leaves, you have to put off the AC, open up the windows in the building for fresh air, and then also use an Air Fresher? Isn’t it sad that this person doesn’t have the slightest idea about the Agony he or she put you through just because of an unhygienic lifestyle? What about when you have to look through a document with someone who has a mouth odour? I bet you probably almost die from holding your breath. Does this person really know what you had to go through just because of his or her foul breath?
Now you can’t even imagine what people who get married to partners with poor hygiene have to go through daily. I know lots of people who have called off Weddings just because they can’t live with it. I also know Marriages that have ended, because of poor hygiene. May I advice that before you judge such people, try and experience what they have gone through, and you will realize that IT IS TORTURE!
Why does a Relationship or Marriage have to breakup for this reason?
From experience, it happens mostly because the partner with the poor hygiene just DOES NOT CARE or have become helpless! Some of these people were Child Victims of Physical Neglect. They were never brought up to bath regularly, wash their mouth day and night or rinse their mouth after eating. I have met countless ladies who don’t even know they have to clean their Vagina after urinating so they don’t smell down there. We also find men who wear the same shirt for 2 or 3 times before washing despite the fact that they sweat a lot from the armpit causing a stench. Some dry cleaners almost go crazy when clothes are brought to them for washing just because of the Stench that comes from some stack of clothes customers with poor hygiene bring to them. And then you have men who wear the same underwear over and over that their penis and rest of private part smells out from the trouser just because as children it was not enforced that they MUST wash their underwear regularly, and because of that some of them even itch while you see them always scratching that part of their body.
This situation is so serious that because it has a foundation from childhood, some of these adults will need Rehabilitation to actually break out from their poor hygiene lifestyle. Let me state here that if your partner has complained to you about your foul breath or body odour, you are going to need to do something about it, because you can’t claim to love someone, and allow them to go through such TORTURE!
By the way, are you aware that poor hygiene also affects you too and may hinder so many things from happening for you? People will begin to overlook every other great quality that you may have and tag you as that Man or Lady with the Foul Breath, which makes them start avoiding you. They may also avoid inviting you to their homes or offices, because they can’t stand how your body odour destroys the freshness of the atmosphere. After a while your low self esteem will be re-enforced and then you start to settle for less for the rest of your life, just because you would rather wallow in self pity, rather than changing your lifestyle, and with so much resources at your disposal for that matter. Do you also know that visiting the Doctor about your foul breath is not a bad idea, because it can be a sign of an internal problem that may need urgent attention.
Finally, I advice that you Read “A GUIDE TO GOOD PERSONAL HYGIENE ” and read up everything you can on it and start to WORK ON YOURSELF. It will Expand your world, Open new doors of opportunities for you, have genuine friends, etc, all because you decided to COME CLEAN.
Now don’t you think it’s worth the effort?
Fill the form to Let me know if you have this problem, and how it’s affecting your Relationships and also if you are in love with someone like this, and need help in dealing with the Situation.