LET’S PREPARE OUR CHILDREN MORE FOR MARRIAGE THAN THE BIG WEDDINGS!
LET’S PREPARE OUR CHILDREN MORE FOR MARRIAGE THAN THE BIG WEDDINGS! Written by ©️ Jerome Yaovi Onipede
Divorce is not a solution to marital conflicts, it is a situation that is confused and full of problems. When we started encouraging it, it backfired! People stopped taking Marriage seriously.
Marriage has become an Institution that people now go into to see if it will work and if it doesn’t they bail. Necessary efforts required by the Married Couple to put into the union either collectively or together, is fast becoming of none effect.
We rarely investigate intending couples now, we just sponsor their big weddings, then we find out later that they filed for divorce the same year they got married, and this MISBEHAVIOUR is becoming the order of the day.
The joke of it all is even before the court grants the divorce, the pair are out again looking for someone new to get married to because the fact is people no longer think WE because all we think now is ME, MYSELF and I.
As a Marriage and Relationship Consultant, I meet several clients who have been divorced 2 or 3 times looking forward to getting married again, and as soon as possible too. We seem to have lost God’s Vision for Marriage. We forget Family is supposed to come from Marriage, and Society from Family. Divorce is not a part of Marriage or a stage that they are required to go through in Marriage.
Families need to take Marriages more seriously than wedding ceremonies by asking questions again, putting in more efforts into preparing their Children for Marriage, and investigating everything about who their Child wants to get married to.
If these processes are taking into account then we will have fewer stories about people getting married to someone with Narcissistic Personality, Emotionally Unpredictable Character, Paranoid Personality, etc, because they will be identified and may be taken for therapy to relieve emotional distress and mental health problems or premarital counselling to improve their ability to communicate, set realistic expectations for marriage and develop conflict-resolution skills.
Divorce is a situation that is confused and full of problems. Have you ever really taken out time to find out why God hates divorce? I think you should.