ARE GIRLS WHO MARRY OLDER MEN HAPPY?
WRITTEN BY JEROME YAOVI ONIPEDE
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This is one question so many people ask, but not publicly. If you were asked that question, what will your answer be? Maybe a Resounding YES, because of the pictures you see on the Social Media, and it's usually glamorous, so I don't blame your judgments.
As a Personal Counselor, I am made to understand things differently by the first hand life stories/experiences that come to me in Counseling, and in my Counseling Experience, I am yet to meet a Girl who married an Old Man, and is happy about it later on, though I have met some Mothers whose daughters married an older man, and the Joy of these Mothers knowing no bounds, because of the Gains/Profits they make from such Union. It always seems that what these Mothers couldn't get from their own Husband/Marriage, they are able to get from their Son in-law (the old man) who is usually sometimes older than the girl's Mother, or within the same age group.
But what's the use when the girl in the Marriage herself isn't happy.
What makes these girls marry these OLD men?
It's usually for different reasons, and I believe we can look at a few:
1) Poverty tops the list. She is from a Poverty-stricken home, and marrying such a Man seems to be the ticket for her Family to be rid of poverty. It's obvious that a lot of people have not come to terms with the fact that POVERTY IS A CURSE, and ONLY GOD can rid us off it. Give a Man cursed with poverty riches, and the devourer will visit him from every side of his life until all the money is gone. The worst part is Poverty always operates alongside with SICKNESS and DEATH, and l will like to repeat here that ONLY GOD can deliver a Man from Poverty and not even plenty of Money can do so.
2) The Second reason we will look at is Strong Need for Paternity. A girl gravitates towards an older man when she never had a solid relationship with her Father, or never sensed the presence of a Father in her life. In her bid to fill that void, she may find herself dating older men, and eventually marry one.
3) A third reason for a girl Marrying an older man may be POWER and Authority. Females love men in Power, because they feel VERY SAFE around them. And don't forget that SECURITY means a lot to every woman you will meet out there. She wants to know she is safe, because her Man is around to ensure that, which is why even a powerful woman despises a Man that is weak, and wants to be with a man more powerful than she is, rather than a beggar who is always asking for this and for that, and can't make decisions for his own life.
4) Rebellion is just another reason why a girl marries or runs off with an older man. Maybe her father keeps chasing all the small girls in town, and probably even impregnating them. She sees how sad her mother is, and looks for a way of punishing her Father, so off she goes with an older man hoping her father will die of anger. The rebel has never been known to do right or live right, because rebellion is never a constructive way of solving any issue on ground.
5) Our fifth reason can be the DIVERSION OF CULTURE by GREEDY IMMORAL MEN. Please don't be deceived, it is NEVER part of the Culture of any tribe in Africa that OLD MEN should marry girls. Some Men just think they are powerful enough to get whatever they want. So you find a King who says he desires a small girl from a family for marriage and no one is able to say NO to him, and you also find some money bags from a tribe who do the same, and it goes on and on, but that does not mean it is the Culture or Tradition of such people to do so, it is just a Diversion by GREEDY IMMORAL MEN, and most of them also end up sleeping with the Wives of their Sons eventually, because these men are under a Diabolical Bondage as willing candidates.
And we can go on and on, but are these girls happy? Well the ones who call me for Counseling are NEVER happy. They always complain because:
1) They never have a chance to run the house, and the more forceful they become about wanting to become the Madam of the house, the more they are treated like they are just one of the figure heads that live in the house. For example the OLD MAN husband of hers can just send a new Freezer home, without her prior knowledge, and so when they ask her where they should put it, it's usually the steward that knows about it, and he is the one that takes charge at that point, while she is just a block head.
2) She eventually finds out that behind all the glamour of wealth, is a life sustained by Medical Drugs to battle Diabetes, hypertension, arthritis, coronary heart disease, etc. And so she becomes an emergency nurse, escorting him all over the world for Medical tests here and there, while the world is made to believe they are on a Cruise.
3) It's amazing that some of these "Money Miss Road" OLDER MEN get to loose all their money through tragedies, bad investments, Law suits, etc just 5 years after the Marriage and everything else you see from then on is MAKE BELIEVE, with so much stress on the small girl who eventually runs away with a Musician or a guy she met on the Social Media, or with one of Oga's Friend who can protect her in case Oga has plans to deal with her for running away.
4) Some of these girls marry Politicians old enough to be their Father, forgetting the fact that Most Politicians in Africa are only rich while they are in Power. Seven years after leaving the Government, most of them become much worse than they were before they moved into Government office, because STOLEN MONEY has a way of fizzling away.
5) Getting the OLD MAN'S Penis up for sex is a LABOUR, and even when she succeeds, helping him to maintain the erection for a Minute is a Mortal Miracle, and so you can never know her frustration, yet she knows she's being watched and will be reported to old man if she tries to go out for sex, though most of these girls married to old men still go out for sex. Sometimes it is the same person watching them for Old Man that is sleeping with them.
6) What about the Mouth Odor from Old Man due to certain Medications or diet. Gosh, these small girls married to old men really suffer in silence.
ARE YOU AWARE THAT IF THESE OLD MEN WHO GO AFTER SMALL GIRLS HAD STAYED WITH THEIR REAL WIVES, THE MOTHER OF THEIR CHILDREN, NONE OF THE ISSUES MENTIONED HERE WILL BE A PROBLEM, BECAUSE I HAVE SEEN OVER AND OVER HOW THEIR GOD ORDAINED WIVES GRADUALLY NATURALLY BLEND WITH IT. IT'S REALLY A BLESSING AND AN HONOR TO WATCH OLD COUPLES THAT GROW TOGETHER AS PLANNED BY GOD. MAY WE GROW OLD WITH OUR SPOUSES IN JESUS' NAME. AMEN.
So what about the OLDER MEN themselves, are they usually really happy with these small girls? Well that is a Topic for another day, but do your investigations before then and share some of your factual findings with me. Until then, I hope these small girls running after old men will go and look for their mates, so they can grow and build together.
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